The mind likes to think, to explore, to ponder and to consider. It is, of course, necessary to think. However, it is not necessary to overthink, but that is exactly what, only too often, we do. If we think wasteful thoughts, the mind will go into the depths and breadth of that waste thought, turning it over and over in our mind, one thought leading to many others. If we have a positive thought, the mind can, likewise, go deep into that thought. However, the mind has a strong, built-in negative bias and is likely to pursue a negative thought with much greater vigour than a positive thought. That’s why we need to gently train it!
The more that we stay with a thought, the more strongly we will experience the feeling that accompanies the thought. Thoughts occur when the seed of an idea is planted in the awareness. Thoughts are made up of non-physical vibrations. Each thought is a series of vibrations that can be positive or negative. Positive thoughts are generally created by our drawing on life-enhancing qualities such as peace, patience and love. Negative thoughts are created through forgetting the good qualities and, instead, drawing on traits such as anger, attachment, ego or greed. Whichever thoughts we choose will create vibrations that match those thoughts and that is what will be felt and experienced by you, the thinker.
When you love, you love even the flaws of your beloved, and when you do no love, even his merits are irritating – Omar Khayyam
We all have challenging people in our life. Whether it’s a member of the family, a colleague at work or someone in our community. That said, every person carries good qualities, even though sometimes we may have to squint to see them. Visualise the person who is currently a challenge in your life and name 3 positive qualities about them. Write all 3 qualities down on paper, starting each sentence with the person’s name e.g Adam really cares about the people around him. As we do this, our mind begins to see them as dynamic and nuanced people. This helps rewire our perception about the person and subsequently positively influencing our behaviour towards them, gradually ameliorating the relationship.